Q&A: So many dreams … so little time …
Q: I know it’s important to write down one’s dreams, but I have so many each night that writing them all down feels like a part-time job. Help!
Signed,
Time Crunched
A: Dear Crunched,
Back when I was in my late 20s I worked as a reporter for a regional newspaper. One day our company sponsored a health fair during which representatives from a local hospital took over a couple of the administrative offices. Each of us in turn was called inside where we were pinched with pincers to measure our body fat, had our blood pressure taken, height and weight checked, and were asked a series of questions about our diet and lifestyle. In return we received a report containing recommendations for improving our health. All this in the name of preventative medicine—and, I’m sure, keeping down our group’s insurance rates.
In any case, after being poked and prodded each of us returned to our desk with a dot-matrix printout containing our health profile. One at a time reporters returned to their desks grumbling about being told they had to cut out their morning doughnuts, or cigarettes, and take up walking or table tennis to help them shed a few pounds. When I returned to my desk, I adopted the same exasperated tone as my weary co-workers and announced that according to my health profile my cholesterol levels and weight were too low and I needed to add more butter and eggs to my diet.
Let’s just say I was not the most popular employee on that particular day.
And so, Dear Time Crunched, all those frustrated dreamers out there in the blogosphere who dutifully place pen and notebook by their beds but either sleep poorly and so can’t catch a dream, or wake too quickly to remember much of anything, are just now taking up their tiniest violins to play for you. Wouldn’t they like to have your problem (and mine too, by the way): So many dreams, so little time, as they say. (I believe my grandmother had that catchy phrase stitched onto a needlepoint pillow on her fainting couch … oh, no, on second thought hers said, “So many men, so little time.” But I digress.)
Fear not, My Dear, you have come to the right place. I shall pull myself up to my full Size 4 Stature and stand up for you. Yes, this embarrassment of dream riches is indeed a problem that must be contended with.
Here’s what you can do so you can keep up with your dreams, and still get to work on time, do the dishes, and fit in an hour of wholesome Public Television in the evening:
- Invoke the 5-Minute Rule: When it’s time to record your dreams, set a timer for five minutes and write what you can before the chime sounds. Imposing time pressure will force you to choose the dreams or images that are most interesting or meaningful to you. Focus on those.
- Headlining: Consider each dream and give it a headline. List those, and leave the dream details for another time.
- Night notes: Rather than record your dreams first thing in the morning, wait till bedtime. Time acts as an effective filter, and by nightfall you’ll only remember the most salient dream scenarios and the most important details.
- In dreams we trust: Sometimes we worry that if we record dreams selectively—we’ll select the wrong ones and miss out on some gem of dream wisdom. Trust that your dreams are gentler and more forgiving than that. If there’s anything important that you’ve missed, it’ll come back around in another dream, another night.
Now that I’ve helped you manage your dreamtime, I hope you’ll dream up some fabulous new activity to keep you busy during those extra hours in the morning. Table tennis anyone?
Dreamily yours,
Tz…
Copyright Tzivia Gover
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Interesting perspective. Do you think the person who feels the need to capture everything in life (“it’s in the details, you know”) also feels the need to capture the whole dream? Or is it something else?
Hi David,
Good question. I think this would be an excellent area for scientific research 🙂
Seriously though, I don’t know the answer to the question you’ve posed, but it’s an interesting one to ponder. Your hypothesis, that people who are attuned to taking in as much as wake life as possible might also tend to do the same with dreams is plausible … as is the reverse: That hyper-focus on dreamlife could be a compensation for scanty attention to wake life.
Thank you for your comment.
We are talking only about the wake state, though. The compulsion to write down every detail occurs in the wake state. Or am I missing something?
Yes, we are talking about the awake state. But people who have a lot of dreams to record, also dream a lot, no?
In any case… this is probably an easier conversation to have person to person than in writing 🙂